tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post2387357104646622002..comments2011-09-30T20:21:10.712+01:00Comments on Oscillating Wildly - a blog.: Living Dolls?Emilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10952104996309119496noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-44379937423320708722011-05-22T21:01:50.920+01:002011-05-22T21:01:50.920+01:00I've been saying this about the Suicide Girls ...I've been saying this about the Suicide Girls for sometime. Missy Suicide tries so hard to sell her ethos, but at the end of the day she's still peddling the same shit. 'They all have good bodies, straight teeth, nice make up, pretty faces, big eyes, good skin.' I would add [mostly] no pubic hair also.babydullhttp://twitter.com/#!/babydullnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-49042995253228817582011-01-06T20:53:52.526+00:002011-01-06T20:53:52.526+00:00Salen, can you please explain how "a man'...Salen, can you please explain how "a man's sexuality simply IS". Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-4127839337277659232010-12-12T21:50:37.612+00:002010-12-12T21:50:37.612+00:00*depresses
I'm sure I made tonnes of spelling...*depresses<br /><br />I'm sure I made tonnes of spelling/grammatical mistakes as I type so fast but i had to correct that oneselinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-49991008930532215232010-12-12T21:49:02.032+00:002010-12-12T21:49:02.032+00:00When I draw a link between anxiety about ones appe...When I draw a link between anxiety about ones appearance and the sexual act I mean that the only representation of female sexuality is beauty pornography...so that women feel that in order to be true sexual beings they need to resemble or mimic the actions of porn stars during sex. Obviously any imitation may not be completely conscious. It is exceptionally sad that that is the only vision or conception of female sexuality that exists...or that there is a defined criteria AT ALL. It seems that a defined criteria for men doesn't really exist in this case. Sexual voyeurism is mostly centred around women and a defined criteria always means that a kind of sexuality that women aspire to is exceptionally 2-dimensional. This is one of the issues that depress me on a daily basis...hehselinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-34281828650648321282010-12-12T21:39:57.013+00:002010-12-12T21:39:57.013+00:00The whole point is that whilst a man's sexuali...The whole point is that whilst a man's sexuality simply IS, that is, it unquestionably exists, a womans sexuality is purely aesthetisized. Her beauty = sexuality, when this is not the case. Every single woman is a sexual being regardless of her appearance. Also referring to society as "sexualised" is using the wrong terminology I think. The point is that our society commodifies sexuality, not that our society is obsessed with sex. Our capitalist culture 2-dimensionalises it. Therefore society is not really in favour honest and human sexuality but a contrived, "plastic" sort that alienates people from their sexuality. The fact that you don't look like a porn star doesn't mean you are less sexual or have a less valuable sexuality. Beauty pornography portrays female sexuality in a 2-dimensional and dishonest way...such that a woman is only sexual if she is submissive, young, thin etc when actual feminine sexuality is far more nuanced and complicated than that. Far more uncompromising than that. Middle aged women are just as sexual as teenage school girls, fat women just as sexual as the thin etc. <br />Self worth IS dependent on how comfortable you are with your sexuality, just the aesthetisization of feminine sexuality and of sex in general actually (in the media you only ever see good looking people having sex in a very particular way etc.) introduces a "gaze" into sexuality. The "gaze" is incredibly detrimental to anyones sexuality and their sexual development, regardless of gender. However as a woman's self-worth is more dependent on appearance than that of a man's this commodification of sexuality is more of a feminist issue. Think about it...how can you experience true sexual pleasure if you are self-conscious about your appearance? If you are worried about how you look when having an orgasm, whether a particular sexual position makes you look fat etc.? <br /><br />Despite the second wave feminist movement, beauty pornography and the "beauty myth" still exists to undermine our sexual freedom. Not enough women are adequately selfish in bed. They need to learn to truly let go...to be completely unself-conscious...to just feel...and love because afterall...they are human beings...not "living dolls" ;)selinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-18859878324225042372010-12-12T04:21:37.920+00:002010-12-12T04:21:37.920+00:00Hey no problem.
My mum was a strong feminist in t...Hey no problem.<br /><br />My mum was a strong feminist in the 70s but the problem with being treated equally comes to a point of physical differences. Case and point: is it equal that a woman gets 6 months paid maternity leave but a guy gets 2 weeks on basic statutory pay meaning anyone who earns over £124 a week has to just be thankful for those 2 weeks on half minimum wage?<br /><br />Also what if the woman earns more than the guy can he have the maternity leave so she can go back to work?<br /><br />Reality Is we live in a physically unequal world. I'm not saying everyone shouldn't be treated equally but what I am saying is that equality comes at a price, which should be equality over everything.goghttp://google.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-44973472243881858812010-12-12T01:07:22.042+00:002010-12-12T01:07:22.042+00:00I made a grammar mistake there, you know what I me...I made a grammar mistake there, you know what I mean. <br />Thanks for the comments by the way, I really appreciate the debate.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10952104996309119496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-16265868107349158972010-12-12T01:06:33.992+00:002010-12-12T01:06:33.992+00:00I totally agree with you there. A vast amount cent...I totally agree with you there. A vast amount centres upon sex and lust and all that involves. But I do think that we can make our lives about so much more than that. We can help other people, we can build careers and families. I'd like to be discussing other issues like equal pay. Although those issues are obviously equally as important I feel like these sort of discussions, based around beauty and sexuality etc, I think the work that feminists did in the 70s and beyond should have eradicated the need for this discussion entirely.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10952104996309119496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-12616639387782612682010-12-12T00:50:56.163+00:002010-12-12T00:50:56.163+00:00I wish a lot of things weren't centered upon l...I wish a lot of things weren't centered upon lust and sex. But as humans we really only have a singular purpose which is to breed. Cognitive thoughts to perceive beauty and feel love as an entity is both our greatest gift and greatest singular downfall as a species.goghttp://google.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-13287197166175779222010-12-12T00:30:33.047+00:002010-12-12T00:30:33.047+00:00I understand what you mean. I just wish that the ...I understand what you mean. I just wish that the discussions feminists and women were having were not centred upon lust and sex.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10952104996309119496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-70285527187662239262010-12-12T00:23:59.204+00:002010-12-12T00:23:59.204+00:00Yes you are right all people, not Just women, can ...Yes you are right all people, not Just women, can be thought of as beauty. I don't disrespect any woman for reasons of their choice of earning a living, but some people feel it's ok to disrespect any one who provides a service. You should be well aware if that. But the more seedy the service the more potential for nasty treatment in return. It's like a class war on a very personal granular level.<br /><br />I say "true" beauty because the media pass of what they do as beautiful girls but it is the lust they are banking on.<br /><br />I'll tell you something I've never told anyone. If. I am attracted to a girl because of lust I would consider her on a raw sexual level. When I see beauty in a girl I want to just holder her. When I find a girl beautiful and lustful at the same time So the two raw emotions balance That is the girl I want to be with.goghttp://google.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-64570286861356922672010-12-11T23:51:08.420+00:002010-12-11T23:51:08.420+00:00To some extent I agree with you. On the other hand...To some extent I agree with you. On the other hand though, I'm not sure I understand your point about love vs lust. You say that "true beauty" is in the eye of the beholder; surely if beauty is subjective in that way then there is no such thing as "true" beauty. If your claim that beauty is in the eye of the beholder stands, then a glamour model or porn star could be just as beautiful as a glamorous intellectual. I am not arguing that this is not the case as it clearly is. Some people do indeed find porn stars, glamour models or SuicideGirls "beautiful" in the way to which you are referring. I am arguing that every woman has the right to be beautiful in her own way and not have to conform to the strict rules put in place by other people. I myself have been made to feel that unless I adhere to these rules I am somehow less worthy than the girls who do. I don't disrespect Katie Price or the SuicideGirls, I just don't agree with the fact that a lot of women feel that this expression of sexuality is the one that they have to adhere to. I also object to the fact that such importance is placed upon sex. I would rather not be having this discussion at all; women have more to offer than titillation.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10952104996309119496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-46465773999768553532010-12-11T23:36:51.754+00:002010-12-11T23:36:51.754+00:00You are missing a very real and important point. A...You are missing a very real and important point. As tacky and lame as it sounds; beauty *is* in the eye of the beholder.<br /><br />One person who finds another attractive and adores that person because of how beautiful they are can easily lust after someone else completely different looking.<br /><br />Lust and love are completely opposite sides of the puzzle. I believe when you find someone beautiful this is a much closer feeling to love than when you lust after a person.<br /><br />When you lust after someone it is a raw animal thing but when you find them beautiful too that is when you know you will do anything to keep them.<br /><br />I know many girls and guys who slept around just obviously for validation and often they never see the difference between lust and beauty. Those kinds of men will never tell people they look beautiful and not have a motive nor would they ever describe a sunset Orr flower as beautiful... unless they can fuck it.<br /><br />It's a simple understanding of the world That some people never realise. The media say sex sells and they are right, it taps into one of our most basic instincts after food. But they never ever say. Beauty sells... because they know true beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it is for that reason the Suicide Girls don't get any more respect than Katie Price.goghttp://google.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1805602576828660930.post-17635135619321596392010-12-11T23:21:16.391+00:002010-12-11T23:21:16.391+00:00I deffinatly agree. I'm not really attracted t...I deffinatly agree. I'm not really attracted to "conventional" beauty.I much prefer girls who look unique and don't just mindlessly follow society's standards of beauty.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18322404394947315189noreply@blogger.com